All effort & no hope

All effort & no hope

We live in a world that bows at the feet of continual effort. The push to ‘succeed’. The need to ‘achieve’. The grasping for ‘growth’. We are belaboured with (well-meaning) sentiments that beseech us to dig deep, try harder and extend further in the effort to get somewhere that we’re supposedly not (yet).

But in all the effort, it’s easy to lose the magic and miss the mark. The dance passes us by and we’re left wondering what it was all for. Achievement and growth are an innate element of life - oftentimes simply strangled by the effort we exert.

Overstretched with effort.

Contorted with trying.

This striving turns out to be a form of lying,

Like some fancy dress

that ends up making me less

the beauty than I am.

I put on too much make-up.

And it runs rivers down my face,

becomes sweat-laced with all

of this pretence.

Give up, god damn it.

Give up. Let go.

Stop all the pushing,

and contriving.

Give up.

Give up to rise.

Fall on your knees and sob.

Let the hopeless tide rise

and rob you of all hope.

Until you land in that place,

where there’s nothing to lose

and you leap, finally free.

Because you’re no longer held

in the bind of your own grasping mind.

It’s all over, so it can begin again.

You gotta give up, to get started.

You gotta strip bare, to get there.

To the place, where all possibility arises.

Independent effort leading to success is a fallacy. A figment of the imagination, created by some distorted perception of disconnection.

Creation is a dance of relation. Your success is a conversation with life. Your achievement is the art of your heart.

Your growth may look nothing like you intended, and yet, it is an inevitability. Stop fighting and instead soften into the form unfurling within you.

Why we disconnect

Why we disconnect

We disconnect from our bodies to avoid hurt.

As David Whyte says, "When we are fully here, we can be fully found... When you can be touched, you can be hurt."

And yet, the honour of being here and touchable and hurt-able is the great gift of our aliveness. As long as we disconnect and as long as we numb, we deny life, we deny love, we deny belonging and acceptance.

Accept your limits ... and find freedom

Accept your limits ... and find freedom

Who wants more freedom?! I went through a phase where I railed against the limits of my body, my finances and pretty much my entire life in general! I have an almost insatiable 'freedom-drive' in me. I get it. I know the feeling.... Well what if freedom was something you didn't have to fight for?

Why I do what I do

Why I do what I do

I've chosen to focus my life on the things that feed and heal me - movement, creativity, connection and nature. I've chosen to focus my work on empowering others to do the same. But my work isn't simply about personal empowerment and healing, far from it; my work is motivated by a recognition that the only way that change can and will occur at a collective level is if each of us takes responsibility for our own personal healing.

The key to healing

The key to healing

Health and wellness isn't simply about what you eat and how much you exercise. At heart, it's about your relationship with yourself and your commitment to yourself.